Fatal Attraction or Frenemies? Is it ok to date an ex's brother?

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Hello, friends! 🤍

How is everyone? Is mercury retrograde treatin you right, or having its way with you?

Mercury retrograde, and I tend to have a bit of a sordid past. Sort of like an ex that has Sonnar when you speak poorly of them, we both agree to limit how much we say about the other.

Either way, we (Dolly & I 🤍) are sure glad you are here.

This week there were some exciting write in’s that’s for sure.

All questions submitted are edited and abbreviated with the writer’s consent. Everything, as always, is anonymous.

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Dear I beg your Parton,

There is a girl in my friend group who has started copying me. Maybe copying isn’t the right word because I’m almost 30, but I don’t know what else to call it. We aren’t super close (the friend group is big, 15+ people), but I considered me and this girl “friendly” enough. It seemed to start with similar clothing styles (I do a lot of thrifting). She started going to places I’d shown her to find rare band t-shirts, but she never invites me. A few weeks ago, she showed up at a concert with brand new extensions-like mine (she always told me extensions were a waste of money). Some of my friends in our friend group started pointing out other little things earlier before this, but I blew it off. Now I’m thinking maybe she is?

The weirdest thing so far happened a few days ago. I showed up at my boyfriend’s house, and she was there playing video games. She and my boyfriend have always not gotten along like it’s a known thing with all my friends that they hate each other. So, now I’m freaked out and too embarrassed to talk to my boyfriend about it because he’ll think I’m a psycho. What would you do?

Sincerely,

Freaked the f out

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Dear Freaked the f out,

First, let me assure you, your gut feeling about this situation is not wrong.

As I read your email, I was instantly transported to a time last summer when a girl I befriended got a bit of a fatal attraction-ish on me.

I’m not trying to toot my own horn, believe me. The problem was I was sort of blindsided by it. Now looking back, there were quite a few red flags.

Being inspired by someone is quite different, from attempting to literally become that person. I’m not saying getting a similar hair cut or the same outfit as a friend is a reason to run in the other direction. I have endless muses, writers, humans and of course friends I admire, but there is a distinction between “Oh I love that hairstyle/outfit/concept you created. I want to put my own spin on it.”

Verses: “I’m going to become your doppelganger and start bangin your boyfriend.”

I’d recommend watching The Roomate for pointers.

I’m not trying to alaram you-well maybe I am. But let this latest encounter (her hanging at your bf’s-I have a few questions for him myself btw) be the sign you indeed need to regulate that shit.

I’m not suggesting you play 50 Cents “My Buddy” while slowly driving by her house (though that would be pretty funny) but you need to check this chick, and checking people well it’s kind of my speciality.

I have been told that my personality when someone “upsets me” is similar to Blake Lively’s in A Simple Favor.

Manipulative people, which this girl most definitely is need to be handled directly. Just trust me, people can develop a fixation on people and it can turn sinister, real quick.

There are certainly different approaches though. Let’s see what our dear Dolly would recommend for such a situation.

XO

April

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